This article will discuss the one thing that separates players from losers: meeting new women. If you meet new women everyday, you're bound to find someone you're interested in and who's also interested in you.
The part where most guys screw up is when they try to do everything right the first time. This is most likely a result of Hollywood movies that show a tall, dark, and handsome guy being cool, suave, sexy, and seductive at the same time.
Don't get me wrong, I do want to be cool, suave, sexy and seductive at the same time, but that's really a work in progress, a point you're getting to instead of being the starting point of your journey to meet and bang interesting and hot women.
Let me put together an analogy for you so that you'll understand this better:
Nowadays most people need to have a car to commute to and from work. As a salesperson, having a car is non-negotiable in my line of work. I need to buy a car. When I started work, I had no cash to spend on a really good car, because, obviously, fresh grads don't earn too much.
I ended up having to take a loan for nine(!) years just to get a decent enough car that can handle the amount of travelling that I need to do on a daily basis.
Now, anyone with basic financial knowledge would tell you that a nine-year loan is a really expensive way to buy a car. It adds up to a LOT in nine years. But at the time, my priority was to get the monthly payments as low as possible so that I can just have a car to start earning a salary.
The part where most guys screw up is when they try to do everything right the first time. This is most likely a result of Hollywood movies that show a tall, dark, and handsome guy being cool, suave, sexy, and seductive at the same time.
Don't get me wrong, I do want to be cool, suave, sexy and seductive at the same time, but that's really a work in progress, a point you're getting to instead of being the starting point of your journey to meet and bang interesting and hot women.
Let me put together an analogy for you so that you'll understand this better:
Nowadays most people need to have a car to commute to and from work. As a salesperson, having a car is non-negotiable in my line of work. I need to buy a car. When I started work, I had no cash to spend on a really good car, because, obviously, fresh grads don't earn too much.
I ended up having to take a loan for nine(!) years just to get a decent enough car that can handle the amount of travelling that I need to do on a daily basis.
Now, anyone with basic financial knowledge would tell you that a nine-year loan is a really expensive way to buy a car. It adds up to a LOT in nine years. But at the time, my priority was to get the monthly payments as low as possible so that I can just have a car to start earning a salary.
But what other options do I have? I can start working in McDonald's and save up to buy the car if I don't want to serve the loan. But obviously there are two problems here:
I now drive a better car and have quite a comfortable lifestyle. If I were to go the saving up route, I would still be in McDonald's right now flipping burgers.
So when meeting women, it's best not to save up courage to approach the girl and just approach her right away. You may find that you're not a good fit. Awesome. You move on and approach another girl. Confidence will come with practice.
Another good way to approach girls is the mindset of finding a good match. Approach a girl and start chatting with her. Don't worry about how she feels about the interaction, instead, you focus on how you feel. If you feel really good chatting with her, and you like her vibe and how she carries herself, you can then suggest meeting up to get to know each other more.
If she decides not to meet up, then you know she doesn't feel the same way. Great! Move on.
Most guys do this all wrong. They either:
In the next post, I will give you guys some case studies on how I approach and how I check whether a girl is interested or not.
- it'll take a LONG time for me to save up to the price of a decent car
- by the time I've managed to save that amount, the car's price has already gone up!
I now drive a better car and have quite a comfortable lifestyle. If I were to go the saving up route, I would still be in McDonald's right now flipping burgers.
So when meeting women, it's best not to save up courage to approach the girl and just approach her right away. You may find that you're not a good fit. Awesome. You move on and approach another girl. Confidence will come with practice.
Another good way to approach girls is the mindset of finding a good match. Approach a girl and start chatting with her. Don't worry about how she feels about the interaction, instead, you focus on how you feel. If you feel really good chatting with her, and you like her vibe and how she carries herself, you can then suggest meeting up to get to know each other more.
If she decides not to meet up, then you know she doesn't feel the same way. Great! Move on.
Most guys do this all wrong. They either:
- Use The Force to read the girl's mind, decide out somehow that she would never be interested without ever approaching, and proceed to jack off to porn.
- Get talking with the girl, gets excited about the interaction, but never checks to see if she's also interested in him. Time wasted as a result. Also jacks off to porn.
In the next post, I will give you guys some case studies on how I approach and how I check whether a girl is interested or not.